I rather have the opposite experience of solo travel than you. I do a lot of solo travelling, for my work mostly. When I have to visit a new city or country for work, I always make sure to tack on a day or 2 for some exploration, and a lot of walking around. I value these experiences a lot, but the beacon of home is always strong. When I'm here, there are few things that compel me to leave the house. Mostly, it's the dog's daily routine of ramming his 50kg body against my office door until it opens, and sitting next to me expectantly until I get up and take him on his walk. This happens at 3:30pm every weekday.
My partner on the other hand used to disappear for hours without telling anyone. Nowadays he texts me to say 'I'm going to disappear for hours'. He also often plans solo hiking holidays where his schedule allows. And I say 'Great, I'll be here when you get back. Probably on this same chair, wearing the same outfit, reading a slightly different book.'
I think I would like to experience travel the way you do. Perhaps it's because I'm mostly at home that I long to leave so often. Having a partner that lets you know in advance they're disappearing for an extended time is a strong plus for a long-term relationship lol.
My dog is loves his walks to, but at just under 6kg, he is limited in how far his brute force will get him.
When I was younger (like early twenties), I used to feel restless at home and would often find any excuse to go out. I would work from cafés and things like this. On hindsight, I think it was because I was living in house share. I liked my housemates plenty, but it wasn't 'home' like it was mine. It was a more than acceptable semi-permanent housing.
Once I was able to create a home that is mine, I felt much more anchored and grounded in it. Now, I don't have kids. And if I did I may feel differently! Or perhaps how I feel only stronger. Who knows.
I wish I could send pictures on the comments. Perhaps I'll write a post about home and my dog...!
I escape in my imagination to fantasy worlds. I have wanderlust of the soul, but am hampered by a similar sense of responsibility, and now physical limitations as well.
But my imagination lets me soar and I have the priceless gift of sharing my journeys with my readers. I think you funnel much of your desire for escape into your creative endeavors as well, and we all are the richer for it!
Jason, we have this in common. As the oldest child in an alcoholic family, I had to help the family survive and appear normal through achievements. When things get hard, I still fantasize about running away, taking a new identity, living under an assumed name a foreign country, with a wig of a different color. Ha! I have found a home for that need through my fiction writing; if you ever read my series, you’ll see that theme repeated over and over again! But escaping in my mind, and on the page, has given me the strength to be the responsible person I choose to be, even when it’s no longer required for survival.
Thanks for this. I’m also an oldest child that grew up amid dysfunctional. It’s always nice to hear and remember that I’m not the only one and that I have agency. It’s been a while since I’ve read a thriller. I’ll be reading your series starter later this year!
Welcome back! I've missed your posts too.
I rather have the opposite experience of solo travel than you. I do a lot of solo travelling, for my work mostly. When I have to visit a new city or country for work, I always make sure to tack on a day or 2 for some exploration, and a lot of walking around. I value these experiences a lot, but the beacon of home is always strong. When I'm here, there are few things that compel me to leave the house. Mostly, it's the dog's daily routine of ramming his 50kg body against my office door until it opens, and sitting next to me expectantly until I get up and take him on his walk. This happens at 3:30pm every weekday.
My partner on the other hand used to disappear for hours without telling anyone. Nowadays he texts me to say 'I'm going to disappear for hours'. He also often plans solo hiking holidays where his schedule allows. And I say 'Great, I'll be here when you get back. Probably on this same chair, wearing the same outfit, reading a slightly different book.'
I think I would like to experience travel the way you do. Perhaps it's because I'm mostly at home that I long to leave so often. Having a partner that lets you know in advance they're disappearing for an extended time is a strong plus for a long-term relationship lol.
My dog is loves his walks to, but at just under 6kg, he is limited in how far his brute force will get him.
When I was younger (like early twenties), I used to feel restless at home and would often find any excuse to go out. I would work from cafés and things like this. On hindsight, I think it was because I was living in house share. I liked my housemates plenty, but it wasn't 'home' like it was mine. It was a more than acceptable semi-permanent housing.
Once I was able to create a home that is mine, I felt much more anchored and grounded in it. Now, I don't have kids. And if I did I may feel differently! Or perhaps how I feel only stronger. Who knows.
I wish I could send pictures on the comments. Perhaps I'll write a post about home and my dog...!
I’d love a post about your home and dog. I also just saw all the typos in my earlier reply. Ugh.
I escape in my imagination to fantasy worlds. I have wanderlust of the soul, but am hampered by a similar sense of responsibility, and now physical limitations as well.
But my imagination lets me soar and I have the priceless gift of sharing my journeys with my readers. I think you funnel much of your desire for escape into your creative endeavors as well, and we all are the richer for it!
Exactly! My creativity and imagination take me to places I can't otherwise get to right now.
Jason, we have this in common. As the oldest child in an alcoholic family, I had to help the family survive and appear normal through achievements. When things get hard, I still fantasize about running away, taking a new identity, living under an assumed name a foreign country, with a wig of a different color. Ha! I have found a home for that need through my fiction writing; if you ever read my series, you’ll see that theme repeated over and over again! But escaping in my mind, and on the page, has given me the strength to be the responsible person I choose to be, even when it’s no longer required for survival.
Thanks for this. I’m also an oldest child that grew up amid dysfunctional. It’s always nice to hear and remember that I’m not the only one and that I have agency. It’s been a while since I’ve read a thriller. I’ll be reading your series starter later this year!
I think you’ll enjoy Wired In!
It's better not to go back old comments for that reason 😅. Main reason I became a designer and not a copywriter!